|When I meet other moms I get a bit confused about whether
my baby is normal. He seems to be able to do some things quite
quickly, and really take a long time with others. If my baby
had a developmental problem, how would I know?
The truth is that babies develop at very different rates.
Although you can gain some idea of average developmental
milestones, these are just a very rough yardstick.
I can tell you the true story of a boy who did not walk
at all until he was almost two years old, which is very
late for walking. He grew up to be an extremely gifted athlete.
His mother laughs now and says she wishes she had not wasted
so much of her energy worrying about his progress. The problem
is that it easy to be that wise in retrospect. Your reality
is that you are deep in the situation, and it is difficult
to see the wood for the trees.
Make sure that you have a list of questions regarding your
developmental concerns for every clinic visit and doctors
check up. Try and establish what yoru heart is telling you.
It can be difficult to know what your actual instincts are
because there is so much peer pressure for babies to meet
or exceed the expected deadlines. Nevertheless, if you listen
carefully, you do have a small voice inside you.
If you are still really feeling uncomfortable, then ask
your clinic nurse or doctor who you should contact. A professional
assessment may help you to understand the situation completely.
The fact that you are watching your baby so closely and
noticing that he is sometimes quicker and sometimes slower
to learn new skills than other babies, shows that you are
a concerned and caring mother.