|My little girl has a bald patch at the back of her head where
she twiddles her hair. The patch is growing as she twiddles
the hair next to the patch now! Why does she do this and how
can I stop it?
Hair twiddling is a very common behaviour and is thought
to be a way for the baby to reduce stress. You will often
see babies playing with their mother’s hair while
feeding. Babies seem to find it a very soothing activity.
So you may notice that your daughter is more prone to twiddling
when she is tired or grouchy, as a way to try and sooth
herself. Have a few distracting activities ready for the
next time she twiddles, and see if you can reduce the amount
of twiddling with this technique.
There is very little you can do about this. Most children
do grow out of this behaviour. Cutting her hair very short
just for a while may be enough for her to find other ways
to comfort herself. It may be a good idea to give her a
toy with long hair at the same time that you cut her hair,
and see if she transfers the behaviour.
In addition you could experiment with extra soothing activities.
Babies do have very active lives and perhaps you are underestimating
the amount of calming, quiet play that she needs. Especially
at bedtime it may be worth extending the bathtime routine
to include a gentle massage, and some extra reading and
cuddling time. If you persevere with this for a few weeks,
you may notice a decline in the amount of twiddling.