|I really love being a working woman, but my mother is trying
to tell me that I am being selfish and that being at home
with the baby is a woman’s duty. Is she from the dark
ages or is this the truth? Am I sacrificing the well being
of my baby for my own selfish needs?
Accept that everyone is entitled to an opinion, and there
is no reason for you to agree with it. For many women, being
at home with the baby is the best place to be. But if you
do not feel that way, and find that you are frustrated and
irritable staying at home, what benefit will your baby derive
There are women who really thrive at work and shrivel at
home. It is not a judgement call. It is a fact. So, if you
are one such person, accept that is who you are. Sit your
mother down and discuss this with her. Be patient and tolerant.
Tell her that you accept her view that stay at home is best.
Explain to her that in your case you really do believe that
your baby will have a better mother if you are working.
That you really have a strong view that you will be more
patient and caring if you are able to have the stimulation
of work. Maybe if you describe the situation carefully for
her she will see your point of view.
But if she does not, you will have to accept that you differ
in your ideas on this issue. The decision is yours, and
you know that your motivation is not selfish. Make sure
that you plan your return to work carefully, choose a carer
for your baby that will love and cherish the baby, and generally
ensure that your baby is the winner. When you are home with
the baby you need to make sure you are really there. Be
present and available and make sure that the baby feels
loved. There is no easy or right choice here. There is only
a carefully thought out solution that works for your family.
Work - Baby
Work - Childcare
Work - Choosing a carer
Work - Deciding whether to go back
Work - Financial implications
Work - Important considerations
Work - Making the first day easier
Work - Missing baby’s milestones
Work - Returning to work part-time
Work - Spouse doing his share
Work - Stay at home regrets
Work - The downside of working from home
Work - When to return to work
Work - Work from home
Work - Working with baby present