|I am so nervous about going back to work and how my baby will
cope at day care. How can I make the whole process as easy
as possible for both of us?
As usual, your emotional condition will have a big impact
on your baby. So try to be calm about the process. Make
lists of all the things you have to do before you go back
to work, and make an effort to get these things done. This
can help you feel in control. Use your lists to ensure that
everything is ready the day before, so that there is no
last minute rushing that can unsettle the baby. If you are
really struggling with the idea of day care, a few drops
of rescue remedy can help you feel more able to cope.
Plan to have a few serene days with your baby before you
go back to work. This can really be calming for both of
you. If you have things to do, try to do them in a deliberate
and unhurried way, and chat to your baby in a relaxed way
so that baby feels included and stimulated.
If you are able to plan it, it may be a good idea to spend
a little time at the day care with your baby, perhaps a
few days in a row, and then leave the baby there for a short
time, again for a few days in a row. If this is possible
it will make the transition to staying at the day care for
your whole working period less traumatic.
Another idea that can help the transition is to find out
what the day care routine is, and slowly adjust your baby’s
routine so that it slots in. If your baby continues to have
snacks and naps at the same time at day care as at home,
this is one more aspect that will be easier.
Make sure that you are organised on the first morning that
you go back to work. Think carefully about what to put in
baby’s bag, so that you don’t find yourself
in a work situation worrying about whether baby has enough
changes of clothes. Make sure that the day care facility
has your number and that they will contact you should the
need arise. Then you can be sure that no news is good news.
If baby has a comfort item like a blanket or dummy then
it will be very reassuring for baby to have that item at
day care. Whatever you are really feeling, chat in a bright
and cheerful way to your baby on the way to day care, and
tell baby what a fun time she will have. Be aware that many
babies cry inconsolably on the first day, but that those
tears are usually short lived once you are out of sight.
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